Being What I Always Wanted To Be.....

I believe we all have some demons from our past and sometimes in the present too. More than often I see people trying to run away from them rather than facing them and dealing with them once and for all. It is always easy to not talk about it. It is easier to pretend that it never existed. But it did. It lived, it breathed and you fed it. But now if you know that you could have chosen better, you must have the courage to look it in the eye and say I am not afraid of you. I might be ashamed of you but you cannot scare me anymore.  When I talk about such things to close friends, the feedback I hear is that it liberated them. Talking it out, confessing it made them feel free. Sometimes when we talk it out, we realise those were not our demons. Some demons are brought to our lives and we assume that we birthed and fed them whereas it was given to us to deal with. Hence, talking and sharing is important. Saying it out, writing it out is therapy. Now that people are more open to mental h...

This one is going to sting because many people are not going to like what I have to say. While we talk about equality, empowerment, progress, and what not I want to know how are you doing at your roots/basics/fundamentals? You might be a leader at your workplace, doing well with financial independence but do you still face these root challenges? Not having the surname you were born with and even if you managed to keep one, there is no one to carry it forward for you. Basically your lineage ends here. (Not that it matters... duh!). You have no home. Yes maybe you have paid for it and even have the legal papers for it but as per the society you were earlier living in your father's home and now living in your husband's home. Your future maybe your son's home or an old age home.  You brag your ability to have a career as independence. Isn't it supposed to be a basic right as for the other gender? You are "supported" to work and you are so grateful for it. Your ...

I honestly believe that 1 good thing/person overpowers atleast 5 times of negativity.  Whole my life, I have seen narcissist men all around. That's precisely 22 years of my life. And then I meet one guy and he immediately superseded and changed my expectations from men. What I felt was obvious and natural behavior for 22 years became unacceptable behavior without any leniency. That's what goodness does to you. You forget the capacity and the quantity in which you have it. It is just right and nothing in the world can make you feel otherwise. Similarly, there might be 100 people who don't really like you or wish ill to you but the 10 people who are your true well wishers will always supersede them all. It is a simple logic. Hate/dislike is never committed enough to be consistent. Someone does not like someone, they will talk ill or wish bad for the person and then move on to the next one to curse. But love prevails always. It is there in the conscious and the subconscious. P...