DAY 324 (Fighting your demons)

I believe we all have some demons from our past and sometimes in the present too. More than often I see people trying to run away from them rather than facing them and dealing with them once and for all. It is always easy to not talk about it. It is easier to pretend that it never existed. But it did. It lived, it breathed and you fed it. But now if you know that you could have chosen better, you must have the courage to look it in the eye and say I am not afraid of you. I might be ashamed of you but you cannot scare me anymore. 

When I talk about such things to close friends, the feedback I hear is that it liberated them. Talking it out, confessing it made them feel free. Sometimes when we talk it out, we realise those were not our demons. Some demons are brought to our lives and we assume that we birthed and fed them whereas it was given to us to deal with.

Hence, talking and sharing is important. Saying it out, writing it out is therapy. Now that people are more open to mental health, they must also understand that in many ways, our past shapes our future. If we do not want certain things to linger on, we must take few bold steps.

However, it is rare to find the right people to talk to. Maybe that's why mental health experts and healers are earning more than most of us. Obviously, we who are not experts sometimes do not know how to deal with the emotion shared with us. We might give a reaction that is too undertone for something as huge for the other person finally finding courage of sharing it. I had trouble taking in many things too and I have been disappointed a lot in the past as well. I would say if you are at the receiving end, just reciprocate. Holding someone's hand when their eyes are welling up or giving them a hug after they offload is most of the times doing 90% of the reciprocation. Understand that they are sharing their scars, they are not looking for solutions. They know you can't change anything but they trust you to still love them through. It is much simpler than what we make of it. 

Having someone to listen to you is one of the choicest blessings of God. People do not want negativity from others so they distance themselves when someone hints of emotional dependency. But I think it is a basic humane thing to be there. 

Just. Be. There. 

These 3 words can change someone's life. I wish we all act more human and give everyone a chance to fight with their demons. A little support is all it takes.