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DAY 324 (Fighting your demons)

I believe we all have some demons from our past and sometimes in the present too. More than often I see people trying to run away from them rather than facing them and dealing with them once and for all. It is always easy to not talk about it. It is easier to pretend that it never existed. But it did. It lived, it breathed and you fed it. But now if you know that you could have chosen better, you must have the courage to look it in the eye and say I am not afraid of you. I might be ashamed of you but you cannot scare me anymore.  When I talk about such things to close friends, the feedback I hear is that it liberated them. Talking it out, confessing it made them feel free. Sometimes when we talk it out, we realise those were not our demons. Some demons are brought to our lives and we assume that we birthed and fed them whereas it was given to us to deal with. Hence, talking and sharing is important. Saying it out, writing it out is therapy. Now that people are more open to mental h...
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DAY 323 (Empowered... Are you?)

This one is going to sting because many people are not going to like what I have to say. While we talk about equality, empowerment, progress, and what not I want to know how are you doing at your roots/basics/fundamentals? You might be a leader at your workplace, doing well with financial independence but do you still face these root challenges? Not having the surname you were born with and even if you managed to keep one, there is no one to carry it forward for you. Basically your lineage ends here. (Not that it matters... duh!). You have no home. Yes maybe you have paid for it and even have the legal papers for it but as per the society you were earlier living in your father's home and now living in your husband's home. Your future maybe your son's home or an old age home.  You brag your ability to have a career as independence. Isn't it supposed to be a basic right as for the other gender? You are "supported" to work and you are so grateful for it. Your ...
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DAY 322 (Choose the world you want to live in!)

I honestly believe that 1 good thing/person overpowers atleast 5 times of negativity.  Whole my life, I have seen narcissist men all around. That's precisely 22 years of my life. And then I meet one guy and he immediately superseded and changed my expectations from men. What I felt was obvious and natural behavior for 22 years became unacceptable behavior without any leniency. That's what goodness does to you. You forget the capacity and the quantity in which you have it. It is just right and nothing in the world can make you feel otherwise. Similarly, there might be 100 people who don't really like you or wish ill to you but the 10 people who are your true well wishers will always supersede them all. It is a simple logic. Hate/dislike is never committed enough to be consistent. Someone does not like someone, they will talk ill or wish bad for the person and then move on to the next one to curse. But love prevails always. It is there in the conscious and the subconscious. P...
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DAY 321 (Bring the change!)

 If you are a mother and if you keep cribbing about societal issues and the way kids have been brought up in our generation, keep reading. Well, every generation have their own issues and we all progress in a way or another. But even after generations of changes there is one common issue which is discussed in all forums (professional and personal/ formal and informal/ planned and unplanned) is patriarchy.  I am not one of those feminist who advocate for the world to turn into a matriarch to take revenge on the oppression generations of women have been facing. I honestly vote for equality. And I think most of us do. However, what do we actually do to bring that change?  Apart from discussing and being profound at the takeaways, I don’t think there is any progressive step that we actually take. I do feel that to take the step it does not have to be groundbreaking. Everything starts at home and so this solution starts at home too.  Most of the time, we start discussing ...
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DAY 320 (Dream of a doer!)

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 I am elated today because my childhood friend achieved my childhood dream! They say that people live their dreams through their children but I feel there are few such close-st ones who when they achieve something you always wanted to, a major part of you wins! So we are friends since 20 years and before being friends, I had always been a fan of this girl. Excelled in academics, love to read books, talks intellectual with a great sense of humor and can just lighten you up by being around. Over the years, we became the closest of friends, even roommates, our spouses being friends, we 4 becoming fantastic 4, we separating our cities, becoming parents at just a gap of 3 months, and still till date meeting once a year like a religion! Over the years, she has never ceased to amaze me with the way she handles life, changing drastically and yet remaining the same. And yesterday, I (umm...I mean the fantastic 4) got on a video call (because we have to share all the big things in life to ea...
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DAY 319 (Wellness holidays?)

If you are a working woman reading this post and if you are a mother too, tell me if you ever had a holiday which was truly holiday for you? Finishing off pending tasks, doing that extra cleaning or taking up extra responsibilities because you are not working today, is that really a holiday?  While men in my workplace are making one-day trip plans and beer outings, I am planning to buy that new pan that has been pending for long. Does that ring a bell? Well, find your happiness in small things they say. And buying a new pan is also happiness but then how is it different?  Trying to pursue a hobby? Well it takes a lot of work too. Sometimes you have to find people to pursue a hobby which often you don’t especially if those people are also women. Secondly, if it’s a solo hobby, you can truly get to it peacefully only if your child is sleeping or occupied in a class/school or somewhere else and by the time you get to it, often the passion is fizzed out. On top of all of it, the b...
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DAY 318 (Do you talk or respond?)

Writing has always been healing to me. It has always happened that I would have words articulated exactly the same way I am thinking them when I am writing but when I speak I always miss somethings and then I redo it in my head. Has it happened to you? I went back many times to retrospect why so? It took me to as back as I could remember where I was hardly 8 years old and used to maintain a diary where I talked everything "to" it. "Dear diary..." and it went on everyday. I had so much to tell my diary and if someone asked me how was school today, I would say fine. There were no big secrets spilled there. What secrets would a 8 year old have? I still remember journaling stuff like, "Oh it was such hot weather today! We did not even get enough water breaks! How unfair?!" But if someone would ask me later "You seem dehydrated." I would say "Oh, is it?" So having never acknowledged for all these years that I am the most expressive and ...
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