Day 272 (Food for thought...)
I am a feminist who believes women shouldn’t be treated special because they are women. Instead they should he treated equal as men or any human being. But time and again, in various families I see simple yet complicated things happening for women all around.
You become a sister to a brother, you are expected to give him special treatment, respect him, give away your things to him without nagging because he is your ‘brother’.
You become a wife and you are expected to leave away your past life, forget your parents on festivities or wish them on call as you wish all other of your friends and relatives. You are expected to change yourself according to the new family. You are expected to be respectful even if it means giving away your self respect. All this and more in trade for a good husband and sometimes women are unlucky enough to not even get that.
You become a mother and then you are expected to give up whatever little was left of you which maybe you had with courtesy to your husband. Your job, your health priorities, your likes... and add on to some more of your responsibilities towards your in laws now that you are a mother.
I am not saying men don’t give up anything, but I feel it should be equal adjustments. Its a partnership not a trade. And even if it was, the deal was of 100% loss for us.
I don’t know when things will change or how many will contribute but now that I have a son, I will make sure that he is a part of this change right from beginning. He must know what “equality” means and how it should be a part of his everyday behaviour.
Small to start with but maybe not too small to not try...
You become a sister to a brother, you are expected to give him special treatment, respect him, give away your things to him without nagging because he is your ‘brother’.
You become a wife and you are expected to leave away your past life, forget your parents on festivities or wish them on call as you wish all other of your friends and relatives. You are expected to change yourself according to the new family. You are expected to be respectful even if it means giving away your self respect. All this and more in trade for a good husband and sometimes women are unlucky enough to not even get that.
You become a mother and then you are expected to give up whatever little was left of you which maybe you had with courtesy to your husband. Your job, your health priorities, your likes... and add on to some more of your responsibilities towards your in laws now that you are a mother.
I am not saying men don’t give up anything, but I feel it should be equal adjustments. Its a partnership not a trade. And even if it was, the deal was of 100% loss for us.
I don’t know when things will change or how many will contribute but now that I have a son, I will make sure that he is a part of this change right from beginning. He must know what “equality” means and how it should be a part of his everyday behaviour.
Small to start with but maybe not too small to not try...
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