DAY 279 (Selfishness and parenthood)
When I became a parent, I thought that parenthood comes coupled with selflessness. There is nothing in this world that can make me put myself before my baby. However, when I see and observe around.. I am amazed to find so many selfish parents who are unbelievably blind towards their children existence sometimes. Some of them have kids who are 3 decades older but does that make any difference? Would I be remotely like this when my son is 10 or 20 or 30 years old? I surely hope not.
There are so many of them who believe "Maa bhagwan ka roop hoti hai" (Mothers are the face of God) or that kids should always be grateful because it was their parents because of whom they came into this world. But I have lots of questions on these beliefs. They came into this world because their parents wanted to have a baby. No one came knocking and pleading on their door to give them birth. So nothing to be thankful for to be born. Next, it really goes beyond my understanding why would mothers be a face of God? Because they went through the labour or carried the child for 9 months? But thats how biology works right? And it was an informed decision to go through this pain or the sleepless nights, or the unaffordable education or the luxuries and what not! Why do mothers have to be worshipped for it?
Respect.. yes I agree. We should respect our parents for they knowingly or unknowingly taught us a lot of things in life. But again, that does not mean to agree with everything they say or do because parents are also human. They can be wrong! And sometimes only a young or fresh mind can bring them back to their senses with a simple question "Why?"
So that's that and it frightens me to sometimes imagine that I hope to God I do not become one of these selfish bunch or the ones who say respect me because I am your mother. I also hope that my son questions my sanity from time to time to keep me in reality check and we grow together rather than me supervising him to grow like me or anyone else.
Parenthood is a blessing so my request to all the parents out there not to teach your children otherwise that they are blessed to have a childhood. It is their right and not a favour that you do to them.
There are so many of them who believe "Maa bhagwan ka roop hoti hai" (Mothers are the face of God) or that kids should always be grateful because it was their parents because of whom they came into this world. But I have lots of questions on these beliefs. They came into this world because their parents wanted to have a baby. No one came knocking and pleading on their door to give them birth. So nothing to be thankful for to be born. Next, it really goes beyond my understanding why would mothers be a face of God? Because they went through the labour or carried the child for 9 months? But thats how biology works right? And it was an informed decision to go through this pain or the sleepless nights, or the unaffordable education or the luxuries and what not! Why do mothers have to be worshipped for it?
Respect.. yes I agree. We should respect our parents for they knowingly or unknowingly taught us a lot of things in life. But again, that does not mean to agree with everything they say or do because parents are also human. They can be wrong! And sometimes only a young or fresh mind can bring them back to their senses with a simple question "Why?"
So that's that and it frightens me to sometimes imagine that I hope to God I do not become one of these selfish bunch or the ones who say respect me because I am your mother. I also hope that my son questions my sanity from time to time to keep me in reality check and we grow together rather than me supervising him to grow like me or anyone else.
Parenthood is a blessing so my request to all the parents out there not to teach your children otherwise that they are blessed to have a childhood. It is their right and not a favour that you do to them.
True...i too have the same opinion
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