DAY 174 (Child v/s childhood..)

Well the topic might get offensive today...but I had to write about it. I also know that I am no one in terms of experience to comment on it too... but still...

The confused parents which I find all around me these days makes me feel ridiculous at times. Ridiculous in the sense that even they don't know what do they want. Everyone of them has a dream to see their child being number one in academics. If the child manages to do so, they want him to excel in sports. If that is also achievable, how come the child is not into cultural activities?

Some of them are so confused that they don't even let the child respond to their expectations. They just shove the child inside this roller-coaster and then never wait for the ride to stop!

Till around 5-6 years ago, this craziness used to start generally when the child was somewhere above 18. But now...it starts the moment the child is admitted to a playgroup school.

I am afraid that in an year..they will start kicking their asses the moment the child learns to speak his first word. And an year after that....probably the process will start the moment the child is delivered.

We (who were born in the 80's) are also not ancient! But we enjoyed all the stages of life. Childhood was childhood! We knew how to run, how to choose, how to get ourselves pampered, how to be cranky...and above all how to be free.

I am sure these parents of today's age must have enjoyed even more in their childhood....if its a mater of time! Then why the hell don't they give their own child now the least privilege of providing them of atleast their own level of childishness???

Why is it so important for them that their child is "grown-up", "matured", "all-rounder" n blah-blah!!!

Why can't the child just be a child first?

When I ask few of the parents about this question...they give me a straight answer "Its a competitive world!"
So What??? So what..if it is?

What will happen at the max?...Your child will fail?..Thats it?

Atleast he will not be afraid of failing thereafter!

I guess..its just that now the world has turned upside-down. In this cat-fights and dog-races all that has happened is-
The little ones have grown-up and the elder ones have shrunk down!
And thats a pity...

Comments

  1. Ankit GargMarch 19, 2012 at 11:50 PM

    You are absolutely right about this post. I believe this happens due to the comparison with others. Children will get less stress or mental pressure if people/parents stop doing comparison and let the children do what they want to do or let them be what they are.

    Every one knows about all these things but still when it comes to their child they forget about it.

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  2. supriyaMarch 20, 2012 at 8:08 AM

    @ankit...its more like getting our dreams fulfilled by passing them on to our children which is unfair!

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